Mark Manson

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck’ - Author’s Summary

This is the official summary of the mega-bestseller 'The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life' by me, Mark Manson. See below for chapter time codes.

Chapter 1: DON'T TRY 02:43
Chapter 2: HAPPINESS IS A PROBLEM 06:46 
Chapter 3: YOU ARE NOT SPECIAL 11:03
Chapter 4: THE VALUE OF SUFFERING 15:03
Chapter 5: YOU ARE ALWAYS CHOOSING 18:19
Chapter 6: YOU'RE WRONG ABOUT EVERYTHING (BUT SO AM I) 23:05
Chapter 7: FAILURE IS THE WAY FORWARD 27:31
Chapter 8: THE IMPORTANCE OF SAYING NO 30:33
Chapter 9: AND THEN YOU DIE... 33:41

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:
Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope -  https://mrk.mn/3kM8GJx
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://mrk.mn/3bgPsZp

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: http://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - Summarized by the Author

This is pretty much the only way to becoming a screaming success.
Everyone wants to be good at something, but few people realize that becoming really good at something, or mastering any skill, is no walk in the park.

Today I invite you to watch this 10-minute breakdown of the exact steps you need to take to become a total legend at what you do. They’re simple, but they’re not easy. Here’s a summary:

Step 1: The 20/80 Principle 01:42
The 80/20 Principle states that 80% of the output or results will come from 20% of the input or action. For example, in time management, businesses often found that 20% of their time created 80% of their productivity, and that 20% of their employees created 80% of the value.

Step 2: Get Feedback  04:57
Nailing anything in life requires a lot of trial and error and getting feedback from people. Coaches. Tutors. Teachers. The guy across the fence. You won’t know if you’re any good at something unless someone besides yourself tells you.

Step 3: Practice  07:40
When you look at the people who have mastered anything throughout history, the most glaringly obvious commonality is that they simply worked their asses off more than most people, and for longer than most people. Practice literally makes perfect, motherfuckers.

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:
Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope -  https://mrk.mn/3kM8GJx​
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://mrk.mn/3bgPsZp​

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: http://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U​

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3 Steps to Becoming Great at Anything

The five best personal traits a person can have.

A reader recently asked me this question; they asked which five personal traits would be ideal to have throughout life. After thinking long and hard about how the list probably doesn’t include a chiseled jawline and washboard abs, I picked from the top and boiled it down to five for this video.

Just to summarize: 
1. Self-awareness (timecode 1:32)
2. Risk tolerance (timecode 3:49)
3. Skepticism (timecode 6:01)
4. Compassion (timecode 8:27)
5. Patience (timecode 10:48)

I unpack these ideas in the video but I also mention a link for you to get more on self-awareness, so here it is: https://markmanson.net/self-awareness

If you think I’ve missed one, I want to hear all about it in the comments… right after you like the video and subscribe to the channel. People who subscribe to my YouTube channel are already miles ahead with their personal traits, IMO.

Anyway, enjoy.

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:

Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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The 5 Best Traits for Life

Call me old fashioned but it feels like there used to be a little more humility in the world. People understood that not everything was perfect, sometimes experts got things wrong, but generally, the guy or girl in charge knew what the fuck they were doing.

Today, due to the joys of social media, we’re regularly exposed to legions of people who believe they know what the fuck they’re talking about… when they do not. And, unfortunately, the more clueless these people are, the more confident in their pronouncements they seem to be.

In psychology, this is known as the “Dunning-Kruger Effect.” It’s a psychological phenomenon where people who are bad at something believe they are good at it, and people who are good at something believe they are bad at it. Amateurs are overconfident and experts are underconfident. Newbies believe they’ve got it all figured out and the weathered veterans understand that nothing is really known for sure.

This video discusses opinions: how to have better opinions and why having uneducated opinions makes you totally suck.

Watch it. Like it. Subscribe to the channel. And tell me the stupidest opinion you’ve ever held in the comments.

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:

Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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Why you should have fewer opinions

Learn how to read more books and remember what you read.

There are a lot of misconceptions about how to read well,  so in this video we’ll cover some of the most common issues people seem to have. I can tell you now that the problem most of us have is that we learn to read books for school. And school conditions us to assume that we should be able to actively recall most things we read. We shouldn’t. Human memory doesn’t work that way. We just did that to make decent grades on the tests we took. And suck up to our teachers or whatever.

I’m here to tell you to scrap everything you know. Well, not everything, but a lot of it. Reading doesn’t have to be a slow and laborious chore. I urge you to gather around. Pull up a seat. Today we’re learning better reading habits and skills. The video includes tips on reading faster, remembering what you’ve read, how to read more, and some hacks on using what you’ve learned, or not.

As always, watch, like, comment and hit the fucking subscribe button.

I’ve also just posted my 2020 book recommendations, which you can view here: http://mrk.mn/3o8Lbv7

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:

Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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How to Be a Better Reader

In this video we’re looking at how decisions in life come down to trade-offs. 

As your Economics 101 class taught you, “there is no such thing as a free lunch.” If you’re eating an awesome cheesesteak, you’re giving up the chance to eat a hamburger. If you’re eating a hamburger you’re giving up the chance to eat a double-stacked burrito. And if you’re eating a double-stacked burrito, then you’re giving up the ability to ever respect yourself again.

Everything you do in life is a trade-off. Anything you say, do, or pursue has a cost and a benefit. Those costs and benefits may not always be immediately apparent — sometimes the costs and benefits are dislocated in time, the benefit being immediate and the cost in the distant future. Sometimes the costs or benefits are subtle and psychological. But nonetheless, there is always a trade-off.

In this video we’re looking at how decisions in life come down to trade-offs. And how it just so happens we’re really bad at evaluating trade-offs. Watch it. Like it. Comment on it. And make the easy decision to subscribe to the channel!

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:

Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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How to Make Better Decisions

We will always experience pain, loss, discomfort, disappointment, and frustration. There is absolutely nothing you can do to prevent these things.

We cannot control the pain in our lives. What we can control is the meaning we ascribe to our pain. And it’s that meaning that determines whether our pain causes us to suffer or not.

If we decide that the pain of our break-up means we’re losers and unworthy of love, then we will suffer. If we decide that our break-up means that our partner wasn’t the right person for us, then we will be better off for our pain. If we decide that the pain of losing our job means we’re doomed to be a broke failure, then we will suffer. If we decide that losing our job will be the catalyst that changed our attitude towards work and responsibility, then we will be better off for our pain. Whatever the case, we can choose to avoid our pain or choose to engage our pain. When we avoid our pain, we suffer. When we engage our pain, we grow.

This is all to say that pain is good for you and I’ve made an awesome video to explain exactly why, So watch it. Like it. Subscribe to it. And go embrace some pain.

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:
Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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How to Grow from Your Pain

My thoughts on how to stick it to perfectionism.

To be clear, I’m not about to admonish you to “lower your standards.” In fact, I think perfectionism has its place, both professionally and personally. So the ultimate solution to perfectionism isn’t to get rid of perfectionism, it’s to reorient your understanding of what’s “perfect.”

“Perfect” does not need to be a result. You can make perfection the process. The process of removing imperfection. Try putting something out there before it’s finished, get it criticized and let it fail. Then keep improving it by removing more imperfections. This is a new, imperfect kind of perfectionism. It’s a functional form of perfectionism. One that won’t drive you or the people around you fucking insane.

With that in mind, here are my thoughts on giving a big “fuck you” to perfectionism. Watch it. Like it. And subscribe to my channel!

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Each Monday I write down three ideas that could help you change your life. It's a way to start your week off with a bang and fill yourself with ideas that could potentially change everything, get them for free here: http://mrk.mn/30c3BAq

I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:

Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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How to Beat Perfectionism

This is the struggle almost every adult goes through.

Most of us have no clue what we want to do with our lives. Even after we finish school. Even after we get a job. Even after we’re making money. Between ages 18 and 25, I changed career aspirations more often than I changed my underwear. And even after I had a business, it took another four years to clearly define what I wanted for my life.

Chances are you’re like me and have no clue what you want to do. It’s a struggle almost every adult goes through. “What do I want to do with my life?” “What am I passionate about?” “What do I not suck at?” I often receive emails from people in their 40s and 50s who still have no clue what they want to do with themselves.

But here’s the thing: what we value changes over time, our priorities shift and we redirect our paths. So a better question to ask is: if this was the last day of your life, would you feel good about what you’re doing? For more questions and ideas on finding your life purpose, watch this video. And like it. And subscribe to my channel!

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Each Monday I write down three ideas that could help you change your life. It's a way to start your week off with a bang and fill yourself with ideas that could potentially change everything, get them for free here: http://mrk.mn/3uTtGCH

I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:
Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc
And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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How To Find Your Life Purpose

Developing resilience doesn’t mean feeling good all the time.

If you’ve downloaded any of the mental-health or “self-care” apps available today, you may have noticed your phone turn into a digital ass-kisser that feeds you a bunch of narcissistic fluff each morning.

“You have a beautiful smile, share it with the world.”
“Achieve whatever you want to achieve today, just believe in yourself.”
“Everyday is an opportunity and today is yours. I’m proud of you!”

I’m sorry, but if affirmations and positive statements telling me how special I am is what passes for “mental health” advice these days, then we’re just pouring kerosene on a goddamn dumpster fire. Because this doesn’t promote emotional stability; it promotes self-absorption.

As mentioned above, developing resilience doesn’t mean feeling good all the time but this video aims to paint the picture of what actually does.

Be sure to like the video and subscribe to the channel.

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:
Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

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Why It's Important to Feel Bad

With the massive surplus of stuff to pay attention to in today’s content-rich world, our attention is actually being assaulted. The more crap there is to pay attention to, the more difficult it is to choose what to focus on—not to mention stay focused on it!

Distractions aren’t just unproductive, they’re anti-productive. They create more work than they replace. So, the first and most important goal of an attention diet should be to consciously limit the number of distractions we’re exposed to. Just as the first step of a nutritional diet is to consume less food, the first step of a digital detox is to consume less information.

This video is your guide on how to start a healthy Attention Diet. It helps you understand what stuff is worth paying attention to and what you should give a fuck about. We will cover:

+ Correctly identifying nutritious information and relationships
+ Cutting out the junk information and relationships
+ Cultivating habits of deeper focus and a longer attention span

Your time starts, now.

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FREE: THREE IDEAS THAT CAN CHANGE YOUR LIFE
Each Monday I write down three ideas that could help you change your life. It's a way to start your week off with a bang and fill yourself with ideas that could potentially change everything, get them for free here: https://mrk.mn/2Xy1P9l

If you were into this video and you haven’t already subscribed to my channel, do that now and hit the little bell to get notifications for when I post something new.

I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:
Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

I share other types of content to make you a less awful human in these places:
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How Information Overload Can Destroy Your Mind

One of the first things psychologists did to study happiness was a simple survey. They took large groups of people and gave them pagers (remember, this was the 80s and 90s), and whenever the pager went off, each person was to stop and write down TWO things:

1) On a scale from 1-10, how happy are you at this moment?
2) What has been going on in your life to cause these feelings?

They collected thousands of ratings, from hundreds of people, from all walks of life. And what they discovered was both surprising, and actually, incredibly boring. What they discovered (when pretty much everybody wrote ‘7,’ like, all the time, no matter what), is that nobody is fully happy all the time. But similarly, nobody is fully unhappy all the time either.

It seems that both total happiness and total unhappiness are not sustainable. Instead, it seems that humans, regardless of our external circumstances, always gravitate back to a constant state of mild-but-not-fully-satisfying happiness.

Put another way, aside from the occasional dips or jumps due to various life events, things are pretty much always fine. But they could also always be better.

So tell me, why the hell are we all constantly chasing our tails to find happiness?

I discuss the answers in this video. Check it out. And be sure to like, subscribe and leave your comments below.

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Happiness doesn’t work in the way most people think it does. In fact, it operates in kind of a “backwards” way. I wrote a free ebook that explains what I mean. Check it out: http://mrk.mn/2lXPe1H

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I’m Mark Manson, #1 NYTimes bestselling author of:
Everything is F*cked: A Book About Hope - https://amzn.to/2T2nb1a
The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck - https://amzn.to/2rEX2Jc

And in early 2020 I announced my new audiobook on Audible, called Love Is Not Enough: https://mrk.mn/2TCeM1U

I share other types of content to make you a less awful human in these places:
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