The mindset that's changing my life

I feel like everybody at some point in their life has met somebody who was truly inspiring, you know, they seem to have their life figured out. They are determined they can carve out their own destiny. They create their own luck. And on the flip side a lot of us have met people who seem to just bury themselves in a hole and are unable to get out of it. You know, they are unable to recognize the opportunities in front of them. They Harbor a lot of negativity towards life and they seem perpetually stuck help.

Plus against seemingly endless negative external forces and I feel like a lot of people talk about these two types of people and try to distill one single belief or concept that separates the two of them. And if you just adopt this belief, then you'll be like the successful person and not like the unsuccessful person, but I feel like it's a little foolish to do. So because everybody's life is so wildly different, you know, people had different upbringings people have such different in still..

Beliefs about the world or religion or whatever. It's hard to just say that one single belief will change someone's life for the better for eternity and they'll never experienced hardship again, but I have noticed one trait that successful people seem to share more often than unsuccessful people and I can't help but think that there is a strong correlation between having that belief and having success in life. And that is that successful people..

All tend to have an internal locus of control and less successful people tend to have an external one. So what is locus of control locus of control is the degree to which people believe that they as opposed to external forces have control over the outcome of events in their lives. So you watching this right now either have an external locus of control or internal locus of control and I think the severity of either of these extremes was formed through.

Your childhood and your development and your transition into adulthood because children very young children especially have an external locus of control external forces have control over the outcomes of events in their lives. When you're a kid, you're pretty much absolutely helpless, especially when you're a very young kid, you know, you can't really feed yourself or clothe yourself. You're so dependent on a parental figure to provide you with all of your needs that you basically have no choice..

But to develop a very external locus of control the situations of your life are entirely out of your control and your entirely dependent on some sort of third party to provide you with what you need to survive and there's nothing wrong with that like kids don't really have a choice in the matter that is their world. That's a factual and realistic belief to have as a kid, but hopefully you had a competent parental figure or leader as you're growing up that kind of taught you the ropes how to cook how to.

Dean how to make money how to fend for yourself in the world. I've always thought that if a parent does their job, right they basically phase themselves out. Hopefully by the time you're an adult you still want your parents around but you don't need them around, you know, if they were to die you'd be okay like you could fend for yourself you can figure stuff out but unfortunately for a lot of us, we bring a lot of the helplessness of childhood into adulthood. We never shake the idea that we need to be provided for somehow we.

independent on some sort of external system to provide us with the necessary materials to Survive and Thrive and a lot of the time this is really hard to spot from an occupational standpoint. Sometimes this can look like, you know being unsatisfied with your job and your working so hard but getting paid so little so you externalize this struggle on to your boss or your provider and you blame him for your life's problems, you know, my life sucks because my boss doesn't.

You how much I'm worth and he's not paying me enough money or you might look at the government and say, you know, the government's not giving me the proper tax breaks that I need and my societal class and it's making it really hard for me. And the tricky thing is that a lot of the time these are valid complaints. There's a certain amount of logic to them, but the default shouldn't be to place all the blame and place all of the responsibility for changing the outcome of your life onto these external forces..

Has otherwise we will just be imprisoned by them for our entire lives. Our default should be to look at the cards that we are given and take full responsibility for how we play those cards. I feel like having this internal locus of control. It's extremely important in today's day and age because obviously in 2020. We were just hit with a global pandemic and so much of that felt so far out of our control that it was very tempting. I know for me personally it was to develop.

Feeling of helplessness almost that childlike helplessness started to Blossom again, and I felt like I had to put my entire life on hold put all my habits on hold until this whole pandemic blue over sometime halfway through I realized that I can work within this system. There are things that I can do to improve my life despite the crappy situation and it is my sole responsibility to figure out how to thrive within the environment that I've been..

Laced it's nobody's responsibility to come be your knight in shining armor and fight the dragons in your life. It's only your responsibility and I don't want this to come across like I'm scolding you like the father you never had. No, I'm just kidding. But hopefully to empower you once you start adopting more of an internal locus of control. It'll start to feel a lot less like life is happening to you, but it'll start to feel a lot more like life is happening due to you and that's a very empowering belief to have.

Fact I would say it's a prerequisite to making any sort of substantial change in your life your positive actions to work your way out of a bad situation do have an impact your efforts are not in vain because not only do you have the power to change your life. You're the only one who does.

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